We all agree that there is strength in a woman. Some of the things that women go through are traumatizing but most of them come out stronger than they were due to the underlying situations. A miscarriage is one of the unfortunate circumstances that some women endure. Statistics reveal that 75% of babies conceived, do not get to see the other life outside the womb.
What makes a miscarriage hard for most relationships is different levels of pain for the woman and the partner. For a woman, there is a special attachment that exists since the baby is growing inside her. A man may not experience the same bond since he has no clue on the feeling of carrying a baby. This causes conflicts in a relationship when a woman miscarries a child.
Finding ways to cope as a couple will help you heal and move on from this situation. We will look at the common feelings that come with a miscarriage and how to deal with them.
What are you likely to experience from a miscarriage?
Most of us know of the emotional problems that range from denial, anger, jealousy, self-blame, and depression. Apart from this, some women also go through physical symptoms such as fatigue, lack of concentration, sleeping and eating problems as well as constant crying.
All these symptoms vary with individuals and may be affected by the surrounding circumstances such as support from family or a partner. Women who go through miscarriages and have fertility problem feel worthless and may start developing suicidal thoughts.
How to cope with a miscarriage
Seek help from a friend when telling your partner
You may have tried conceiving for years and losing your child may affect both you and your partner. To reduce the impact of the news to your husband, reach out to a friend and let them help you break the news to them. This will prevent any side from acting irrationally since there is a third party to control the escalating emotions from the conversation.
Take time to heal
Ask for leave from work so that you can take some time to recover. This is still the loss of a child even if they were not yet born. Comprehending the process of grief will help you handle the mixed emotions of denial and guilt. You need to accept that it is not the doctor’s fault or your fault that you lost your baby. Such occurrences have natural causes that are beyond anyone’s control. Be patient with yourself and don’t allow yourself to move to the next stage if you are not done dealing with the previous phase of grief.
Maintain close ties with your partner
Understanding that a man copes differently with the news of a miscarriage will help you save your relationship. Do not let your emotions make you think that your partner is not mourning as much as he should. Stay respectful and sensitive to their needs as you communicate with them openly.
Remain open-minded and accept setbacks
Triggers such as a friend’s baby shower or the news of a pregnant sister may remind you of your loss. Recognizing that such things are bound to occur, will prevent you from getting jealous or blaming yourself for the miscarriage. Avoid focusing on setbacks to avert ill thoughts or getting attached emotionally.
Avoid harmful ways of coping with the emotions
People who have gone through multiple miscarriages with no success of a baby may develop suicidal thoughts with lack of support. Turning to drugs to due to self-blame and depression is possible. NH rehabs will prevent you from drug tolerance and take you through therapy to help you handle your feelings positively. Do not let yourself go through this trying moment alone. Reaching out to for professional help will enable you to find better coping mechanisms.
Maintain a journal
Writing down everything that you find hard expressing to others can help you cope with the grief. This form of therapy is essential for you to keep track of your progress and relieve your emotions. It will help you know how to deal with triggers and bring you peace at the end of a depressing day.
Make your own decisions
Though friends and family might support you, don’t allow them to make major choices in your life based on the circumstance. For instance, don’t give out the baby’s clothes if you are not ready to let go based on your mother’s advice. Plan what to do next and avoid listening to sources that may not know how much you may be hurting. Doing everything at your own pace will save you future regrets without feeling pressured to move on.
Honor the memory of your baby
With the help of your partner, preserving memories of your child can help you heal. You can hold a service in their honor or plant flowers in their memory. Whichever method you chose, ensure that it brings you peace believing that your child is in a better place than earth.
Consult your doctor
Instead of blaming your doctor, talking to them can help you deal with the changes in your body. Sometimes, a miscarriage may need medication or surgery to get rid of what is remaining. They can also help you cope with your physical changes such as excessive bleeding by recommending appropriate treatment to help you recover. They can also recommend anti-anxiety pills to reduce mood swings and nervousness.
Think about the future
Focus on the future, to move past your loss. It might be uncomfortable to have sex again but staying open to the possibility of trying again can help you cultivate positivity. You can also think about adopting a child if there are slim possibilities of conception.
The society still has stigma regarding mothers who keep on going through miscarriages. Instead of letting others affect you, educate them that such things are beyond our understanding. Do not let the loss of your child lead you to depression. We hope that our techniques will help you get past it and find happiness with or without a child. It all depends on you!